Page 85 in "American as Apple Pie" by Jerry Kass...
There comes a time almost in every family when the children leave the nest. Most of the flight is usually marriage. It stimulates our emotions with excitement and preparation as the parents watch the flight with joy and some sadness. Although in today's timeframe, living in before anticipated marriage seems to be a popular trend.
My generation rather frowned upon this behavior. Some of my generation who are still with us shrug their shoulders at this behavior uttering, "What can you do about it anyhow?" Nothing. When this subject surfaces, the familiar phrases which fill the air are, "It's old fashioned thinking." along with, "How do you know if you don't try it?" Our five children went through the normal marriage during our era.
I realize that the normal divorce rate in our country hangs around 60%. I also understand there are multiple reasons why live in attitudes exist. Probably the main reason is divorce among their own parents which leaves them with a bad taste in their mouths and, of course, the 60% ratio poisons them. Those who take the plunge and erase that fear are better off in the long run, for several good reasons. Legality goes in their direction. Children have a more concrete foundation. Community property also leans in their direction. Taxes play a financial role but self-respect probably plays the greatest and biggest role of all.
I have always thought all marriages which last a lifetime are no bed of roses. There are several times when both spouses go through a crisis which may tear their hearts and souls out, driving them up a wall that goes beyond any understanding. But the element of time seems to heal a lot of the deep wounds and sometimes the scars show. But you stick it out. Eventually you become reconciled and life goes on and then one day, you discover how very much you really need each other desperately.
I have always thought one of the saddest and remorseful timeframes of life is lonesomeness, especially during old age. All of us need someone to care about us. None of us are an island. Those of us who can't find this care turn to the silent and invisible God for comfort and satisfaction. And many, I am sure, find Him to carry them through. I sometimes wonder how many live in marriages make it through the long span of life with contentment, satisfaction, and a fair degree of happiness. That answer will probably never be known.
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